A study by the Kinsey Institute found that only 65% of straight women experienced orgasm during sexual activity, compared to 95% of straight men. Dr. Laurie Mintz, author of the bestselling book Becoming Cliterate says, “We use the words sex and intercourse synonymously, and relegate clitoral stimulation to “foreplay” or that which comes before the main act of intercourse.”
We have a problem with sex.
We are obsessed with sex, but struggle to understand and experience sexual health. The World Health Organization defines sexual health as more than just an absence of disease, but something requiring “a positive respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships and the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.” Our understanding of sexual health scaffolds our view of and approach to sex not just for ourselves, but for our society as a whole.
We have a problem with sex and we need to reinvent it. This doesn’t mean reinventing sex acts, fun as that may sound. It means reframing and redefining what sex is and can be.