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Centered around a class of preschoolers, the We Say What’s Okay series helps teach young children the social and emotional skills they need to understand the complexities of consent. Each book covers a consent theme, such as how to recognize the physical sensations that emotions create, look for body language cues, ask for and listen to choices, and know that our bodies have value. With believable, everyday situations and diverse characters, children can see themselves and others reflected in each story—and develop a vocabulary to communicate consent and feelings. Every book in the series is accompanied by a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

Book Cover: We Listen To Our Bodies by Lydia Bowers

We Listen To Our Bodies

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, March 2021

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-500-3

Body awareness is a key foundation of consent. We Listen to Our Bodies gives children a vocabulary to understand and communicate their feelings, develop personal boundaries, and build their social and emotional skills.

Through body awareness and recognizing how emotions physically manifest, young children can listen to their bodies for clues about how they’re feeling. Their bodies might feel shaky when worried or like one big sigh when calm and relaxed. By recognizing that physical sensations are trying to communicate something, children can understand when they feel unsafe, calm, or in need of healthy touch.

We Listen to Our Bodies follows Deja and her preschool classmates as they learn to build emotional self-awareness by listening to the physical cues of their bodies. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Deja’s teachers use to support children as they learn body awareness. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

Reviews

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“We Listen to Our Bodies is the book parents have been begging for to help us articulate to our curious littles how to connect with their bodies and put words to what they are feeling.”

- Brynn Burger,

The Mama On The Rocks

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“It’s a must-read if you want to raise a powerful, consent-conscious next generation!”

- Melissa Pintor Carnagey,

Sex Positive Families

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“Centering the sensory experiences of preschooler Deja...this picture book imparts notable lessons about body awareness. Employing nuanced dialogue, the book offers a solid way to begin discussions on the topic.”

-Publisher’s Weekly

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We Check In With Each Other

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, September 2021

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-503-4

Physical and emotional awareness are the key foundations of consent. We Check In with Each Other gives children a vocabulary to understand that they can change their minds at any time, develop and communicate personal boundaries, and build their social and emotional skills.

 

The second book in the We Say What's Okay series, We Check In with Each Other follows Harrison as he checks in with himself and with his classmates throughout the day to see if they're still having fun and feeling safe. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Harrison's teachers use to support children as they learn to listen to their body signals and respect the personal boundaries of others. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

Reviews

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“Lydia has once again created a diverse, inclusive, and easy to understand children's book that tackles an incredibly complex topic in a way that will make it tangible for children of all ages.”

- Heather C. Thompson,
MS, LPC, RPT 

A Safe Place to Grow Counseling

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“I really love the repetition of the messaging and the many examples the story is offering to express the importance of checking in and communication that supports ongoing consent and body boundaries.”

- Melissa Pintor Carnagey,

Sex Positive Families

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“Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or teacher, this colorful book is foundational for some of the most important nuances in helping kid develop healthy relationship skills that they can use now and in the future.”

-Sarah Casper

-Comprehensive Consent

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We Ask Permission

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, February 2022

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-675-8

Asking for permission is a key foundation of consent. We Ask Permission builds children’s social and emotional skills and helps with teaching boundaries by encouraging children to look for body language cues and by asking before hugging or touching others.

The third book in the We Say What’s Okay series, We Ask Permission follows Jovan as he learns to ask permission and become a body language detective. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Jovan’s teachers use to support children as they learn to look for body language cues and respect the personal boundaries of others. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.


Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

Reviews

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“This title covers an important social skill that is often difficult for children to learn. The classroom and the activities that students are engaged in are authentically appropriate for early primary grades and will resonate with young readers.”

School Library Journal

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“This story is part of a movement to re-humanize our work with young children. Lydia Bowers tells a story that centers the ideas of consent, inclusion, equity, and childhood for all of us. Here’s to a new generation of Body Language Detectives!”

-Heather Bernt-Santy, M.A.Ed., 

That Early Childhood Nerd

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We Accept No

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, July 2022

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-703-8

Accepting no for an answer is a key foundation of consent. We Accept No builds children’s social and emotional skills and helps teach them how to ask for permission, how to respect no, and how to handle rejection.

The fourth book in the We Say What’s Okay series, We Accept No follows Jamin, who is upset when his friend Zakiya doesn’t want to share a great big extra-squeezy hug at the end of the day. With the help of his teacher, Ms. H, Jamin learns why accepting no for an answer is important, what to do with his sad and angry feelings, and what else he can do when someone doesn’t want a hug. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Jamin’s teacher uses to support him as he learns how to respect personal boundaries. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

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We Can Say No

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, November 2022

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-712-0

The fifth book in the We Say What’s Okay series, We Can Say No follows Zakiya and Sami as they learn that their bodies, including their hair, belong to them and that no one should touch them without permission. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model the language Zakiya and Sami’s teacher uses to support them. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

Digital content includes a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.

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We Are in Charge of Our Bodies

Written by Lydia Bowers

illustrated by Isabel Muñoz

Free Spirit Publishing, July 2022

This book is part of the We Say What's Okay series.

ISBN: 978-1-63198-715-1

Being in charge of one’s body is a key foundation of consent. We Are in Charge of Our Bodies builds children’s social and emotional skills and helps with setting physical boundaries.

The sixth book in the We Say What’s Okay series, We Are in Charge of Our Bodies follows Jackson and his classmates as they learn the names for their private body parts, that they can say what’s okay for their bodies, and why it’s important to respect others’ bodies. Using the book as a read-aloud, educators and families can model language to help children as they learn how to set and respect physical boundaries. The author, who hosts workshops and trainings on teaching boundaries and consent for families and early childhood educators around the country, offers additional activities in the back of the book.

We Are in Charge of Our Bodies includes an introduction to adult readers about the book’s topic. Digital content features a letter to share with teachers and families and a song from Peaceful Schools with downloadable audio files and sheet music.